My Child Lit Final

Lessons from Stargirl


Stargirl is not normal; it is not hard to come down to the conclusion that she is different from everyone else, and there is nothing wrong with that. There is just not one thing that I learned from Stargirl; in fact throughout the two books I learned a lot of different life lessons. Everything in this list is something she taught me. Each thing I have learned I have taken and tried to give it a home in my life, so I can be more like Stargirl and I can be more of the star person that lives inside of me.

Stargirl taught me….

 Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

 Don’t be afraid to dance WHEN everyone is watching

 Sing OUT LOUD

 Give to those in need

 Give to those not in need

 Go out of your way to make someone smile

 Not every day is a 20 pebble day

 Some days really can be as bad as a 3 pebble day

 It really doesn’t matter what other people think

 Cheer for the other team

 Have faith in yourself

 Never change who you are for a boy

 Never change yourself for anyone BUT yourself

 One person CAN make a difference

 You don’t have to take credit for everything that you do

 Morn with those who morn

 Comfort those in need of comfort

 Don’t be afraid to love someone

 Don’t be ashamed to love someone

 Changing yourself won’t always make you happy

 Changing yourself won’t always get you what you want

 If being yourself isn’t good enough than they are not ready for you

 Even star people have heartache

 When we do change for a reason other then what is best for us, we can always find ourselves again

 There is a little Stargirl in all of us

 Send random gifts to people

 Making people smile will also make you smile

 Letting a guy occupy space in your life, waiting on him, trying to imagine him in your future when he isn’t even in your present prevents you from moving forward.

 You will always miss them

 You will still have the memories

 BUT YOU SHOULD NEVER ABANDON YOURSELF FOR HIM

 You cannot be faithful to them without being faithful to him

 When something happens and you lose yourself you can always reclaim yourself

 You can always reclaim your future as YOURS not THEIRS

 Give the world yourself – the REAL YOU

 Never give someone half of who you are

 Just because someone isn’t ready for you now doesn’t mean it is a lost cause

 Listen to your friends

 Do not take your friends opinions lightly

 Your friends sometimes know you better then you know yourself

 You can work through your feelings by having a conversation with that person but not really talking to that person but just imagining it

 Loneliness can make you venerable and confuse your feelings

 Don’t EVER throw yourself at a man

 Inhabit the moment

 Live today

 Even if violins play, it doesn’t mean he is the one

 You need to listen with the eyes and ears of your heart

 Sometimes guys will just confuse you to the point where you will be embarrassed that it took you so long to see it (whether it be good or bad)

 Embarrassed, for believing that you were the only one who felt a certain way

 Insulted when you thought someone liked you and they did not

 Relieved when you didn’t like someone and you find out that they didn’t like you that way either

 Curious to what happens next

 If something is meant to be, if destinies are meant to cross again, they will as long as you hope and believe they will

 When you can’t really tell someone what you want to, write the never ending letter to them. Work through your thoughts and feelings that way and you will feel better. That way you can say whatever you want to them.

Stargirl taught me about how to deal with guys, how to deal with bad days, how to find happiness in everyday. Stargirl have a big heart and she makes me want to be a better person. Stargirl helped me and reminded me of whom I really am, who I really need to be. Just one example of the many things was remembering the many times I have changed myself to fit in. After seeing how she got Leo and ever Parry to notice her and seem interested in her (doing nothing) it is ridiculous to think back to everything I have done to make a guy notice me. I remember even back in high school I went through a time where I didn’t even know who I was because I was a different person at home, at school, at color guard, at church, and any place I went I was someone different just so I could fit in. Just like how Stargirl felt when she was not herself, I am not happy not being me. People are always changing who they are; I even see it in some of my good close friends. They are changing for different groups of friends, for church leaders, for teachers, for boys, no one is being the real them, they are all being the person that someone else wants them to be. I just want to be me, like Stargirl was; she had the courage to be herself, and I want to have that too. This was just one little thing, just one little example, but something that if I work hard at, can really change my life.

What I learned from Stargirl has changed me and has given me hope and has told me how stupid I have been. I no longer want to doubt me and trust in a HIM as to what I need to be doing. She has made me want to embrace the star person inside me.



“May our reunion be not a finding but a sweet collision of destinies.”

<3  Erin Christina